Empowered by Empathy

As an empath, I have found that the outside judgement from others is sometimes just as distressing as the internal chaos that is experienced. We have all heard statements such as "you're too sensitive," "maybe you're just co-dependent," "it's all in your head," or my favorite "it's just a trend." If these, or similar statements have ever been directed at you, it is in this moment I encourage you to release them.

Being empathic, to some, can feel like a curse. Some days, it feels like we have no control over the absorption of others. To an extent, we don't. Aura portraits, or Kirlian Photography has shown that the auric bodies of some empaths appear to be more porous when compared to others. The extra dedication and work needed to make up for this can be overwhelming for some. This is when the victim cycle can arise, and negativity around the subject can become enhanced from the energies that we create in our mindset. But this does not need to be the case.

Repeat after me - sensitivity is my superpower.

Say it aloud this time, sensitivity is my superpower.

In order to properly utilize our gifts throughout life, we must first understand them.

Webster's definition of empathy is (n). the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.

But what does that mean to us?

As a baseline, empathy is the ability to understand and share another's reality. Every human being has this innate ability. We learn early on that energy is the information that moves, and every aspect of life is composed of it. Thoughts, objects, feelings, bodies and spirits are all affected and shared on different wavelengths.

To break it down, we have physical and subtle energies. Physically, our empathy is translated through a complex system of biochemicals and hardwired neurons. Our psychological profile is primarily body-based. Through this we send, receive and interpret empathically delivered information. Contrarily, our subtle energies (also referred to as intuitive, spiritual, psychic or mystic data) make up the bulk of the information that we give and receive empathically.

To put it simply, empathy produces concrete results but primarily occurs through the exchange of unseen information.

Accessing and interpreting this information can be very useful, but it is important to know that the level in which each individual absorbs this energy varies. Some people reside on one end of the spectrum known as under-empathy. These individuals aren't able to fully activate their empathic circuitry. The "under-empathetic" have a range of paths that they may end up on, but the purpose of this topic today is not found in those details.

On the other end of the spectrum you can find over-empathy. I personally have found myself here since a child. Before we are aware of the effects this has on us, we may find ourselves overwhelmed with the physical conditions, emotional entanglements and hidden beliefs of those around us. It's difficult to know if what is being experienced is a reflection of our own state or another's. This becomes even more complicated when we are also attuned to that of the unseen universe.

Bottom line, it can be harmful and isolating to be too "tuned in" as it is overly "tuned out."

Throughout my life I have found myself in states of contagion and empathetic absorption. Contagion is a term that social scientists use to describe the hyper-empathic condition in which one person's state of body, mind or soul catches fire in another. Empathic absorption happens when we soak up and hold onto so much of another's empathic data that we lose track of our own bodily needs, feelings, knowledge or value system. By allowing this to happen within ourselves we may become susceptible to ailments triggered by the stress and inflammation, further dragging us down a hole of exhaustion and illness.

This is where the empowerment begins - with boundaries.

Empathic boundaries are the filters that decide what empathic information we will let in or not. These energetic "strainers" as I call them, are composed of various types of fields that emanate from us. This includes electromagnetic fields, which are biological and are generated from every one of our cells, organs and overall body. The other vital fields involved in this filtering process are our auric fields. Auric fields are an extension of our chakras, which are the subtle energy organs that manage all aspects of our being. Between the two, it is decided what data to absorb or deflect based on our programs which are ideas stored in our neurological system and our chakras.

For some of us, this is easier said than done. I personally have learned that there is no such thing as "finished" when concerning boundaries, it is a constant evolution that ebbs and flows based on our current health conditions and outer situations. For those not as high on the over-empathy end of the scale, it can be hard to relate to the struggles that accompany it.

This is where misinterpretations come into play. Another's projections are not your genetic make-up. We all have our own hardships, and I ask you to observe any accusations objectively, knowing that only you have the power to decide who you are and what you experience. On that same note, I found for me that holding a space for love during these times heals not only ourselves but those triggered around us.

For those who have read this far and relate to the content being described, I want to share some tips that have allowed me to alter debilitating programs, and give relief to an empathic area that may be impacted.